LOVE TIPS FOR GIRLS
There's Always Someone Better Looking
Than You, So...
No teenage girl is completely satisfy with her looks. Most girls
would change one or more features if they could, in the false
belief that this change would make them popular with guys
The simply truth is, guys are intimidated by gorgeous girls, and
it's the prettiest girls who often have the most trouble meeting
guys.
Guys are looking for a lot more than a face and a figure. They
are searching for girls who are warm, charming, witty,
adventurous, and friendly-girls who make them feel good about
themselves. Therefore guys often fall in love with girls who are
not as good-looking as they are.
Your personality is the you behind your looks. It's the
personality that shines through and cause you to appear either
better-looking or worse-looking.
Once you dare to allow your unique personality to shine through,
you'll start attracting guys you never thought you could get. It's
not a mystery. People are looking for "soulmates.
How To Meet The Guy You Have Your Eye On
Smile! Guys love a friendly smile and appreciate it even if they're
not attracted to you. If you do smile, they will take notice of
you, and, who knows? Anything can happen next.
Some guys appreciate it when a girl starts a conversation with
them. Often they don't know what to say and in addition they fear
rejection. When a girl is the one to break the ice, it puts them
at ease and makes them believe they have a chance of going out
with her.
Guys love honest compliments and store them up in their minds-forever.
When complimenting a guy, study him carefully and say something
different about his looks or personality. He'll think you're
intelligent for having noticed, and he'll love you for making him
feel good about himself.
Some girls act stuck up because they think if they show a guy
that they like him, he will lose interest, but the opposite is
true. Guys like girls who are warm, open, and friendly, and they
feel rejected, angry, and offended when girls put on an act and
behave in a cold manner. Nine times out of ten, if a girl plays
hard to get, the guy will move on and no romance will take place.
Most guys prefer a natural look to lots of makeup, teased, and
stiff hair, and overly seductive clothing. Take advantage of this
fact and develop your own style of dress. Why cover up your
natural beauty?
How To Keep A Guy Coming Back For More
Guys are inclined to be attracted to girls who are interested in
their accomplishments and who are willing to listen to their
problems with an understanding ear.
Girls with a sense of humor keep guys coming back for more
because they are unpredictable and exciting.
In order to form a strong bond with a guy, talk about your mutual
values. However, be warned, this discovery can also drive you
farther apart. If this happens, it's probably for the best.
Participate in a variety of activity together-things he likes
things you like, and things neither of you have ever done before.
Keep the relationship fun and exciting.
Falling In Love...And Falling Out
Romantic love is the powerful combination of physical and
spiritual affection. Both girls and guys fell "out of their
senses" when they fall in love.
Romantic love is not "infatuation" or "puppy love".
It's very real. The question is, will it grow and deepen or will
it fade?
People "fall out of love" for many reasons. They
discover that they don't share each other's interests, values,
and goals; they find that their personalities are incompatible;
they find that they do not accept each other for what they are,
and so.
Falling out of love is the most normal thing in the world,
especially in the teen years when you are first discovering what
you really like, value, and respect in another person.
If your boyfriend falls out of love with you, you may at first
feel abandoned, sad, and confused, and you may wonder what's
wrong with you that you weren't able to hold on to him. Once you
analyze the situation, however, you'll stop blaming yourself and
realize that your lost love has nothing to do with your being a
lovable person. You may also feel angry, and be tempted to seek
revenge. These feelings are normal, but when you come to think of
it, you'll probably decide to handle the situation with dignity.
If you fall out of love with your boyfriend and want to break up,
let him down gently. What you do and say to a guy may affect his
relationships with women for the rest of his life.
How Sex Changes A Relationship
Girls and guys often have very different feelings the day after
the first time they've had sex. Girls often have mixed emotions-at
best. Guys are usually unreservedly happy.
Couples often break up soon after having sex-for a variety of
reasons.
When a relationship ends after sex has become a part of it, girls
often feel angry, disappointed, guilty, rejected, depressed, or
regretful. Not so with most guys.
One thing that girls and guys agree on is that once sex enters a
relationship, things change. The relationship becomes much more
intense and "serious". This in itself can lead to a
breakup.
Teenage girls and guys both advise that it's a good idea to think
more than twice before entering a sexual relationship (although
you won't hear that from a guy in the heat of the moment.)
Teenage girls agree that it is possible to refrain from having
sex with future boyfriends-even if you've already had sex with
former boyfriends.
I'm from the "old school" when it comes to virginity.
What ever happened to making out? Many teenage girls also advise
virginity until marriage, but some suggest a "minimum age
for sexual relationship," such as eighteen or twenty-one
Friends...And Your Boyfriends
It's natural to spend less time with your friends when you have a
boyfriend, but don't neglect them, completely. Although
boyfriends have a special place in your life, they're no
substitute for friends, who are likely to be around long after
boyfriend is gone-if you treat them right.
Guys are flattered when girls neglect their friends for them, but
at the same time, they feel threatened by this behavior. They
respect and appreciate a girl who maintains her friendship while
going out with them. In fact, showing a certain amount of
independence usually enhance the relationship because, when guys
know that they can't have all of your time, they value the time
you do spend with them more highly.
Male friends hold a very special place in a girl's life, but when
they chemistry is too strong, it's a good idea to bring things
out in the open rather then avoid the issue.
If you are falling in love with your best friend's boyfriend, the
best thing to do is cut it off cold. There's no law that says you
have to act on every feeling. If you resist the temptation, you'll
feel better about yourself later. In the long run, self-esteem is
more important than immediate gratification.
Don't go out with a close friend's ex-boyfriend until you've
discussed the situation openly with her and explored her feelings.
Boyfriends come and go, but friendships last forever.
Don't Play Hard To Get, Be Hard To Get
When a girl calls a guy too often, most guys begin to resent the
girl and/or become bored with the relationship. In general, it's
better to let him do the calling. Guys like to think they're the
ones who catch the girls-not vice versa. So, let him think he's
doing the chasing, even if you're active behind the scenes.
If a guy tells you he'll call, it isn't a good idea to wait by
the telephone. Go on about your business. Believe it or not, he
will call back if you're not there. Why wouldn't he? After all,
he was interested enough to make the effort in the first place.
In addition, if he doesn't, so what? There will be plenty of
others.
It isn't a good idea to demand that your boyfriend for sake his
friends and spend every weekend night with you. In fact, you
should regularly do things with other people. Make yourself
scarce.
Guys don't respect girls who are "always available" and
who jump every time they snap their fingers. In short, guys value
girls who have a mind and a life of their own.
Both girls and guys advise that girls hold back when it comes to
speaking out on feelings in the beginning of a relationship.
Saying too much, too soon, can ruin everything.
The best way to play hard to get is to place a high value on you
and actually be hard to get. If you do that, it's inevitable that
guys will think of their time with you as something to be
treasured.
What To Do About Cheating
There are different definitions of cheating-depending on who is
giving the definition.
Most teenage girls and guys "cheat" on each other
occasionally, and most don't think it's wrong under certain
circumstances.
Some teenagers feel that there is no excuse for cheating and that
if you want to see others, you should agree at the outset to an
open relationship. Others feel that unless you're married, you're
free to do anything you want, and you don't have to tell your
partner (but that it's wise to make sure the two you're seeing
live far apart).
Most teenagers couldn't cope with the idea of their boyfriend or
girlfriend seeing others, yet they want to see others if they
feel like it. In other words, they want to "cheat" but
not give their partner the same privilege.
Most teenagers would listen to reason if they found out their
boyfriend or girlfriend were cheating.
In my opinion, it's okay not to tell your partner when you go out
with someone else every once in a while. However, if you begin
seeing that other person often, or start having deep feelings for
him, it's time to decide between the two-otherwise you'll feel as
if you are deceiving at least one of them, and you'll feel guilty.
When He's Not Worth Keeping
The following fellows are not worth keeping:
bossy, jealous, controlling guys
guys who lie all the time
guys who do drugs
guys who are always too busy to see you or who are "geographically
undesirable"
guys who are engaged in illegal activities
Guys who raise a hand to you-no matter what the reason. There's
no good reason
guys who try to make you lose sight of your goals
guys who are "out of one thing only"
guys who are constantly putting you down
guys who are continually arguing with you
If your boyfriend broke up with you, realize that no matter how
much you love him, or how much it hurts, he's not worth keeping,
because if he doesn't love you, you're dancing without a partner,
and that's no fun.
The higher your self-esteem, the more likely you are to form
positive, nourishing relationships, so continue to pursue your
goals and work on knowing and loving who you are. That person
will someday attract a man who values you and is worthy to you.
Author: Joyce L. Vedral, Ph.D